For your sake:
 | Heal yourself. Working through your own grief in a positive way
shows your children that they can too. |
| Stop the conflict. If there is a chance you and your spouse will
argue when you talk, make sure it happens out of the kids' earshot. |
| Build a business relationship. You don't have to like your
ex-partner, but you do have to find a way to work with him/her when it comes
to the children. Your business is raising secure, emotionally stable,
and happy children. |
| Avoid prolonged legal battles. Use mediation to agree on custody,
visitation or support. |
| Don't cut off contact. Both parents should have open and frequent
access to their kids. |
For your kids' sake:
| Don't badmouth. It is emotionally important for children to believe
their parents are both good people, even if they aren't perfect. |
| Don't interrogate. Don't try to find out about the other parent
through the child. |
| Avoid confessions. Don't lean on your children for emotional
support. Find another adult to talk to. |
| Watch your child's behavior. Sometimes your kids will tell you
everything is fine when their behavior tells you it's not. |
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Read a book to your kids
or yourself!
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